We’re only into the first steps of wedding planning and we’re already feeling a slight bit overwhelmed. There’s a lot of things that go into a wedding and I had no idea.
Gwen and I went to TQ’s yesterday so that we could get a start on what we would need to do for planning our wedding. TQ came prepared. She had a list of things that we would need, some more important than others, and the average amount of the cost of those items. She said the average cost of a wedding in San Diego is $15-20,000. I gasped at that. When I saw the price of some of the items, I gasped again. I knew it was going to be expensive but I didn’t actually know how expensive. I also didn’t know how much actually went into a wedding. I’m looking at the list going “We only need a 1/3 of that…” But that was my money conservation self coming out me.
The thing that shocked us the most was determining the people. Before we went to TQ’s, Gwen was telling me about how many people she was planning to invite to the wedding. She said about 150 people. My eyes widened. That was just invites. I’m sure some of you are like “That’s about average” and you can totally bash me for my reactions but I’m just saying, I don’t know what to expect. She asked me and I said probably about 70 or so. But when we were determining how many people would actually come, probably about 100 on her said and maybe like 50 on mine (she actually came up with a list and I haven’t and her list had people we both know). When talking with TQ, she said to expect 5 to 10% more than what we invited! That changed everything. That means we have to budget for extra. Didn’t expect that.
After our meeting with TQ, I felt overwhelmed. Gwen wasn’t terribly concerned. I felt overwhelmed as there was so much more than I ever realized. I never paid attention to what actually went into a wedding. Thankfully, Gwen already has an idea of what goes into a wedding and some prices so that comforts me. The rest, I’m just going to have to leave up to God to supply the needs. No worries.
Today, we talked to our parents. I talked to my parents and they said they were going to give us a cash wedding present but were not helping for the wedding. No surprise there. I asked her about paying for the Rehearsal Dinner and she was a little shocked because they didn’t have one but she said it depends on where we eat and the cost. Again, no surprise. That does make the financial a lot bigger though which means more trust in God. It is what it is.
Gwen talked with her parents and they’re going to chip in for the wedding. They just want to know some more logistical stuff that’s fantastic! Other than that, it’s just us vs. San Diego.
I will say it’s easy to caught up with the challenges and get overwhelmed but we’re simply believing God for favor, trusting Him and leaving it in His hands. We’ll do what we need to do and let God work out the rest. We only get to go through this process once so we’re not going to let the challenges get us down. It’s tough time but that was to be expected. All I know is that we’re on our way!!
The next step is that I need to make my list of invites so we can get a number of how many people I plan on inviting (potentially) and then once we get the budget straight, we’ll start looking for venues. Now, all of Facebook can hold me accountable! Bam! Let’s go!
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